Energy Update "Putting Self First"

“Putting Self First” This topic has come up a lot lately! How do we put ourselves first? Our society says its wrong to put you first. I think our hearts know what’s right, when and how, so the first step is tuning into how you feel. If we choose only to listen to society we will stay in a blocked relationship with self, OUR SELF. Feeling indebted to others such as “You have to go or do or be” or beating yourself up for not going is another way to play into this definition by society. Instead decide in the moment what is right for you, act on it and stay with the decision. Don’t go back and beat yourself up later, staying with the decision means you will never go back and judge it. Instead grow from it, you can always make a different choice next time (this concept connects to abundance). This also is you learning how to hold your power for the “inside job”…..to please and fill you. If you find your current circumstances unpleasing, maybe you don’t have enough people around you who understand you right now, there is no support or you feel alone. We all feel this at points. It really is you getting happy with where you are right now that opens the BIGGEST door to staying present, which in turn fills you with peace. You don’t have to trick yourself but shift your perception. If this is hard, set up a reading so you have more tools to work with it. Focus for you on “what is”. A way to think about this is getting to an event and realizing you are not really ‘able’ to be there. Choose how to manage your energy while you’re there. You may choose to rise up and be the life of the party, then choose to have a quiet afternoon the next day. It’s about displacing our energy at points but there is NO MORE PUSHING! It’s about tuning in at each turn to keep the body, soul and mind operating on the same page. Make sure you are present for YOU in each situation you choose. We need to only be doing one task at a time. Be present in the task and you’ll find it more enjoyable for sure!

We Choose our Feelings

A friend of mine reminded me in a conversation a few weeks ago of the importance of remembering, “we choose our feelings”. I’ve always taken this to mean, if you feel low, law of attract or in some cases, trick yourself into feeling good. However, her approach defined it in a new way. Right after talking to this friend I had a situation that brought up big disappointment. I had a choice in the moment and decided at first to react, so naturally, I blamed my kids. I did this because in this moment I didn’t have the freedom to meet the situation to avoid disappointment. I then blamed myself for missing the timing of this event based on it being in another time zone. I gnashed around for a moment and then applied the idea that I can choose my feelings. I changed my feelings to “This situation will come around again, it’s not missed but delayed until it is in perfect alignment for me.” When I said this in my head I felt a little sick. I felt this because I didn’t believe what I was saying. However, I sat a second and stayed with it. What came next surprised me. I had appreciation for my kids. I was here now to do what I was doing and I could see the grander scheme, I could feel it too! I could feel how my kids bring so much to my life, how I need their influence to teach and guide me as much as they need mine. Wow! The next thing, which came up were feelings about me making a mistake. For some of us, including me, it feels when a new mistake comes to our attention all of the mistakes we’ve ever made resurface too. I realized this moment is where I was supposed to be, nowhere else. I had a sense of freedom I had not felt in years! Simple but I find weeks later, I need the reminder in this article to keep approaching each situation this way to regain it as a reflex for life. Lastly, when we choose our feelings and look at them from an objective viewpoint, the more we dismantle the story and replace those feelings with understanding, which creates peace and ultimately love.

Energy Update “The difference between Boasting and Sharing”

“The difference between Boasting and Sharing” School is starting! For all parents, teachers and grandparents sometimes, subtle teachings for the children we love go a long way! I believe I’ve shared this before but my intuition says to share it again. Several years ago I was with some kids. When we met up one of the kids started intensely telling us about what they were doing later that day. They went into great detail, however something bothered me as they spoke. I couldn’t put my finger on it but inside I felt like they were telling everybody listening they are better than everybody. What were they doing? They were boasting. It took me a few hours to see what the other side of boasting. When I did it became a lesson I taught my children and I hope to teach you. What’s wrong with boasting? We separate people. We are telling others (based on our insecurity) that we get to do something and they do not. Doing it makes us feel ‘better’ than others. While this is a temporary fix, it won’t sustain us. If we feel good about ourselves we don’t need to do this. What’s the opposite of boasting? Sharing! Sharing is simply showing gratitude and expectancy with it. “You guys! I feel super excited. I am going to this place, etc. When the child describes what they’ve been told they’ll experience and their attitude is in expectancy (excitement with no attachment to outcome) and gratitude they are in the right place. Statements like “I feel really excited about this!” “I can’t wait to report back on what I learn.” These are inclusive statements. Help your child to see the difference. I also explain this to my kids in an opposite example. A friend playing at our house once said, “I should have been in that higher math class, yada, yada.” That night at the dinner table I talked to my kids about what that friend could have said instead. We came up with this “I am going to work harder next year so I can pass that test to get into the higher math class. I like math and want to do well in it.” This child was speaking to lack, if he has no purpose to be in the high math class other than status, he has nothing! However, if he has goals he’ll likely attain them.