Energy Update: Taking on the Energy of Other People

For years people have told me they pick up the energies of other people. I look at us as responsible for ourselves so that energies are “clinging onto us” has been a challenge to my understanding. However, I was begging the question around this and the answer revealed itself. As children we looked to our parents for cues on what is safe and what is not. There are many studies, which have taken a visual patterned surface and a baby and placed them on it. The child will glance to the parent for cues that it is safe to crawl across this varying visual surface. Based on the parent’s response the child will react and move or stay. This is how parents could play live chess! As we grow older we look for social cueing from our parents. Our parents didn’t always know and maybe had odd rules around this for themselves via their own insecurities. This is where dysfunction comes in. So, if we are unsure about our self? We look to others for social cueing and for how we “fit”. Thus, when we pick up others energies we are looking to others for our validation. (This differs in the place where there is a “Vampire Archetype” or a chronic complainer). Stop looking around and be with you. Many or all of you reading this are empathic and you may see this differently than how I’ve stated it here. I have to stress the tipping point is you are not a victim of the energy of others. You are leaving yourself open to this by trying to size up “what mama thinks of you.” We ultimately seek validation and love from a mother and father figure, something most of us didn’t receive. We can now allow ourselves to love our self fully and replace this need and experience with self-acceptance on all levels. Love you and you’ll be able to love everybody else too!

Energy Update "Inner Child Begone Spray"

What? Ok, so coming out of August and Sept we were dealing with our inner child. I define that simply as the part of us that knows we’re eternal and feels like it can do no wrong (not through arrogance but self love). If you are struggling, ask yourself, “Do I feel like I have the world by the tail?” If not, your inner child needs some excitement in the way of applying your spirit to living. Think of how children run around in an open space, one minute they are a horse, the next they are a pig, then an airplane. This type of flowing creativity is what the child thrives upon. Get it! Don’t know how? Ask, “What would it look like for adult me to have a fulfilled inner child?” Watch for signs. You might be at the grocery store and you think about bowling with canned goods. While you can’t actually act on this, entertain the idea of what it would feel and look like to do so. If you have children of your own, bring them in the mix. My son and I go shopping together and one incentive for him to come with me is that if we hear a young child make sounds we silently mimic what the child would look like while making these sounds. My son and I laugh so hard. It is harmless but very PLAYFUL! We might want our inner child to sit silently, obediently but how about encouraging the inner play in our self to allow both the adult and the child to merge and express? Lastly, to many of you I have said, “In 10 years the reader I’ll be.” I’ve recently felt another layer of reading open to me. I have identified my sweet spot in reading as working with relationships and career. I have found a new tool to look at what people’s true purpose in career is and it is proving amazing results for my clients. If you are struggling with your career, please consider working with me to gain clarity. I think the info has been revealed because it is time for people to step into these rolls. I’ve found for the clients with, which I’ve read around this topic, the guidance on how to get there is as clear as what they are to be doing! The universe has provided simple steps, which are highly attainable for each of these clients. Never underestimate the power of how you word a question! A simple wording change made all of the difference and taught me how to open this specific door more fully. And? It was inspiration from my inner child, from the play within me, which developed the question! A 30 minute reading would be plenty to get solid information about your career. Consider taking me up on the "Gift Certificate" discounted reading as a gift to yourself this holiday season! www.intuitivepathfinder.com

Energy Update "Hang in there People!"

Hang in there people! Experiencing some intensity? Sorry to say some of us just are. There is a cycle coming in (or extended for some) that looks like it will free up in April. I don’t mean to be a downer but this is to ease the hearts of those in the struggle. So if this is you, take a breath! We are being asked to release ourselves from still something, which sticks. The story arc here is about letting go, trusting, non-attachment and putting yourself first. We may have been working a long time toward things and wonder why they still don’t quite take. There is a greater reason for this, which I’ll share in a second. However, our efforts are good if its passion we follow. I know too well the hard work, the effort, the confusion, the bliss and again confusion. If you’ve read with me and dimensionality came up, I had no take on it. However, since then the information has come in and I define dimensionality as ideas beyond what we knew before. It is simply now we have a broader perspective beyond what we could work with in the past. Here’s the rub! This information was taken from the book The Intellegent Heart Transform your life with the laws of love and it states, ”The difficulty with the middle fourth dimensional energy (defined as our ability to understand what we do and think impacts what comes our way-more or less what we understand as the law of attraction) involves a lot of process and very little of it manifests into the 3rd dimensional world. We find ourselves forever working it out, processing it, getting in touch with it, praying about it. We do change our relationship to whatever it is, but that change does not always bring great changes in our lives. Breakthroughs bring us demonstrations but not substantial shifts in real time that are sustainable. This is not the fault of anything that is done at this level. This is the way the energy is structured at the middle fourth dimension. This energy does not easily penetrate the density of the 3rd dimension. Therefore, it takes a lot of work over time to bring the changes into manifestation and often we seem to go one step forward and two steps back. Please not the upper fourth dimension is a place from which it is quite simple to manifest things. In weaker moments, stopping the thinking and saying to your self, “Stay present”. We need to once and for all stop the running mind. One of my friends calls it the “twirling mind”. We may be feeling like we have one foot in a peaceful place among the chaos and one in the anxiety and heat of it. Rise up by allowing space for reflection and release. Remembering this life is a construct for learning and working to see the truth about who you are can satisfy when things get too serious for us in our heads. A quick run through of the coming energy. About the second week of January the energy will shift to what looks a bit like lack. Then we’ll get a reprieve in early February. Honor that shift but know that there is more that’s coming and embracing non-attachment while in this seeming whirlwind is going to serve you as the shift occurs. Later Feb will be a bit dry and March will be trying. However, things open up in April so stop and enjoy life when things are lean, be with YOU! Success is had when we behave like children! It’s like a big snowstorm you can go play in it or resist it.

Energy Update "Balancing Activity & Rest"

I must confess my writing time has been channeled into a project. I am amiss to come up with the fancy articles I was before! If you're new to my email list, go visit my blog to see past posts. If you're hungry for knowledge and like what I teach, you'll find good, free information there. I am seeing the universal patterns changing and becoming less obvious. So I reach to you dear readers. What do you want to know? Please email me with general questions about intuition, reading, universal energy and relational situations as a construct for better understanding (Pseudo scenarios). Please no personal questions you want read for you though. Lets keep it something for everyone! However, in saying that, I am happy to answer to scenarios where you can’t see the contrast in the situation, keeping the names changed, etc. This weekend past I was in Duluth and I stayed with some friends. One of them said, "Amy you should start a website called, ASK AMY." Well, it is not a website but here it is! That was quick (zero point manifestation, check that out!) Now down to business. If there is a theme its about finding the balance in activity and rest. Some odd weeks ago I wrote about it being a choice to meet a situation with stress or letting go and flowing with it. An example of this could be looking for your car keys. If you get stressed about where they are it may delay you more. If you start looking for them knowing you are going to find them you create way less stress for your body. How many times have you not found your keys? Likely, not too many times. The same idea works with the theme of activity and rest. Allow yourself to feel good about both the times you are getting activity and rest. It is a skill to let go of labels such as if I rest I am "Lazy", "I better keep going so I get it all done." Trusting and believing there is room for both rest and activity is a big piece in this puzzle! Tuning in to how you feel is another. Practice this and see time free up for some, I'm certain, much needed rest! On the other side if you are having trouble activating, you have fear. What do you want in life? What are you letting stop you? Fear and resistance go hand in hand. Honor your feelings but keep moving through the fear to go into the activation of what you really want in life! Small steps and challenging the Universe to show you, bring you information, support you. These are tools that are new to our tool belt but if you start using them, in time you'll feel like you've got the world by the tail!

Energy Update Empowering

Many of us are coming out of experiencing a deeply rooted, long-time fear. While it may not have been our biggest fear it was an old one. We fleshed out parts of it last month. If there were some drama filled experiences, which bubbled up last month they were to help you quickly shift in life. Remember your objective at this juncture is to nourish, nurture, accept and love yourself. Easier said than done? I get it! We are each to tune into our needs, our desires and act from there. This means if people are asking you to do something for them, tune in and see if it is yours to do. Don’t judge it! If you start saying to yourself, “Nobody else will help them do “X” I’d better help them, etc. that’s you judging it! You need to focus on feeling if it’s for you through your heart (discernment). You in fact are not the only one who can help. Saying you are the only one is you indeed being self focused in the wrong way. If it is for you to do, do it, be it and don’t be afraid of it. If it is not, have the courage to be honest and share how you can and cannot help. If you’ve helped this person or situation in the past and gotten burned, say no! That is how to keep a pure stream of love for oneself and others too!

Energy Update "From a Child's Eyes"

I believe and have taught my kids when a person is saying something mean about you TO YOU, what they are actually doing is projecting their own fears onto you. My daughter mentioned to her brother that she does not agree with my statement. A few weeks later I spoke to her about this. She entertained that she understands what I am saying through an example I shared. However, she still feels it is not ALWAYS the case. I took the always away with me because truth is not about always or never, truth is fulfilled on the premise things are ever changing. Later that evening I could see the difference in what I am saying and what my daughter could see. When somebody approaches us through a low emotional state: reactive, bullying, disagreeable, etc. They are projecting their shadow onto us. However, when somebody makes an observation, “Amy, you are speaking too negatively, lets change the topic.” This is what Jane could see as they are not projecting onto us but instead holding a boundary. So when you feel a social cue of somebody moving away from you to support their boundary, look at yourself too to see what energy they are naturally responding to within you. But if they are blaming you, “putting something on you (scape goating) “you were this or that”, remember it comes from them, its not yours but theirs. Listen to children they have ample points to make. I find when I meet my kids in what they have to offer, our relationship foundation is then based on mutual respect and that is a win/win for this altruistic heart!

Energy Update "Crossroad"

“Crossroads” Heck, sometimes life can just seem like it takes a form all its own. We may feel things are chaotic, out of control. For many of us this ends up with us experiencing anxiety or the attachment to outcome. Right now many of us feel this is a place to make change and create some new patterns through choices & decisions to create a catalyst in our lives, but how? The chaos rages inside. The duties, commitments and relationships we connect to have needs that want to be met. We are good to others but perhaps we don’t get the same in return or this is how it seems. Let all this go for a minute. Now free, how would you choose to feel inside? Feel that for a moment. Smile if this feeling pleases you, yes, make your co-workers jealous! This feeling? Keep that in your pocket all of the time, or in your heart. You can do it! This feeling is you constantly, at each turn choosing you over choosing to please. It opens you with no effort to manifestation because when we have no resistance in us? Things come easily. This is where we are supposed to stay, not through force and pretending it is so but intending it is so. The difference with intending is we are allowing. I believe choosing what we want at this juncture it is about choosing how we long term want to feel, then staying in the moment to achieve the long-term effect. We hear a lot about staying present. A big part of staying present is allowing ourselves to see the perfection in what we have, where we are and who we are now. See, if we were supposed to learn it all at once we would. A mantra I’ve carried for many years but find especially helpful now is “You can have it all, just not all at once.” We are incubating many of us, the ideas, attitudes of who we really are so we become it. This practice takes quiet and patience. It takes us (like my article several weeks ago) putting ourselves first and then seeing where, in truth, others fit into our lives. We then allow people around us to realign and that is a gift from us, not something mean we are doing to another. We are now consciously choosing to empower others in place of enabling them. This is our divine nature as I see it. When we believe in others enough for them to care for and love themselves we can let go and allow this to fully bloom in them, for them. The impact it has on us is also a win. So at this crossroads, find your footing in the moment.

Energy Update "Putting Self First"

“Putting Self First” This topic has come up a lot lately! How do we put ourselves first? Our society says its wrong to put you first. I think our hearts know what’s right, when and how, so the first step is tuning into how you feel. If we choose only to listen to society we will stay in a blocked relationship with self, OUR SELF. Feeling indebted to others such as “You have to go or do or be” or beating yourself up for not going is another way to play into this definition by society. Instead decide in the moment what is right for you, act on it and stay with the decision. Don’t go back and beat yourself up later, staying with the decision means you will never go back and judge it. Instead grow from it, you can always make a different choice next time (this concept connects to abundance). This also is you learning how to hold your power for the “inside job”…..to please and fill you. If you find your current circumstances unpleasing, maybe you don’t have enough people around you who understand you right now, there is no support or you feel alone. We all feel this at points. It really is you getting happy with where you are right now that opens the BIGGEST door to staying present, which in turn fills you with peace. You don’t have to trick yourself but shift your perception. If this is hard, set up a reading so you have more tools to work with it. Focus for you on “what is”. A way to think about this is getting to an event and realizing you are not really ‘able’ to be there. Choose how to manage your energy while you’re there. You may choose to rise up and be the life of the party, then choose to have a quiet afternoon the next day. It’s about displacing our energy at points but there is NO MORE PUSHING! It’s about tuning in at each turn to keep the body, soul and mind operating on the same page. Make sure you are present for YOU in each situation you choose. We need to only be doing one task at a time. Be present in the task and you’ll find it more enjoyable for sure!

We Choose our Feelings

A friend of mine reminded me in a conversation a few weeks ago of the importance of remembering, “we choose our feelings”. I’ve always taken this to mean, if you feel low, law of attract or in some cases, trick yourself into feeling good. However, her approach defined it in a new way. Right after talking to this friend I had a situation that brought up big disappointment. I had a choice in the moment and decided at first to react, so naturally, I blamed my kids. I did this because in this moment I didn’t have the freedom to meet the situation to avoid disappointment. I then blamed myself for missing the timing of this event based on it being in another time zone. I gnashed around for a moment and then applied the idea that I can choose my feelings. I changed my feelings to “This situation will come around again, it’s not missed but delayed until it is in perfect alignment for me.” When I said this in my head I felt a little sick. I felt this because I didn’t believe what I was saying. However, I sat a second and stayed with it. What came next surprised me. I had appreciation for my kids. I was here now to do what I was doing and I could see the grander scheme, I could feel it too! I could feel how my kids bring so much to my life, how I need their influence to teach and guide me as much as they need mine. Wow! The next thing, which came up were feelings about me making a mistake. For some of us, including me, it feels when a new mistake comes to our attention all of the mistakes we’ve ever made resurface too. I realized this moment is where I was supposed to be, nowhere else. I had a sense of freedom I had not felt in years! Simple but I find weeks later, I need the reminder in this article to keep approaching each situation this way to regain it as a reflex for life. Lastly, when we choose our feelings and look at them from an objective viewpoint, the more we dismantle the story and replace those feelings with understanding, which creates peace and ultimately love.

Energy Update “The difference between Boasting and Sharing”

“The difference between Boasting and Sharing” School is starting! For all parents, teachers and grandparents sometimes, subtle teachings for the children we love go a long way! I believe I’ve shared this before but my intuition says to share it again. Several years ago I was with some kids. When we met up one of the kids started intensely telling us about what they were doing later that day. They went into great detail, however something bothered me as they spoke. I couldn’t put my finger on it but inside I felt like they were telling everybody listening they are better than everybody. What were they doing? They were boasting. It took me a few hours to see what the other side of boasting. When I did it became a lesson I taught my children and I hope to teach you. What’s wrong with boasting? We separate people. We are telling others (based on our insecurity) that we get to do something and they do not. Doing it makes us feel ‘better’ than others. While this is a temporary fix, it won’t sustain us. If we feel good about ourselves we don’t need to do this. What’s the opposite of boasting? Sharing! Sharing is simply showing gratitude and expectancy with it. “You guys! I feel super excited. I am going to this place, etc. When the child describes what they’ve been told they’ll experience and their attitude is in expectancy (excitement with no attachment to outcome) and gratitude they are in the right place. Statements like “I feel really excited about this!” “I can’t wait to report back on what I learn.” These are inclusive statements. Help your child to see the difference. I also explain this to my kids in an opposite example. A friend playing at our house once said, “I should have been in that higher math class, yada, yada.” That night at the dinner table I talked to my kids about what that friend could have said instead. We came up with this “I am going to work harder next year so I can pass that test to get into the higher math class. I like math and want to do well in it.” This child was speaking to lack, if he has no purpose to be in the high math class other than status, he has nothing! However, if he has goals he’ll likely attain them.

Energy Update "Emerging"

I’ve had messages about Emerging. While I am to understand this is a subtle part of our personal expression and perhaps dimensionality shifting into a higher, more powerful gear, it appears to be an important piece to the puzzle. As I write this I am laughing at the fact that we create our reality and what I am writing about seems a little gossipy to me! The messaging has been we are rising up as though emerging from the depth of a pool of water. I did catch a snippet written by another intuitive, I am so sorry, I cannot remember which source, however there was mention about ascending. This action has been cited in many texts about the energy shifts surrounding 2012. The energy cycle is to culminate in 2016 and this emergence is just a part of the process but is an achievement and plateau on which to rest on some clarity for a moment and feel our power more fully. I’ve read about this and its impact on us as a society. I’ve read dramatic accounts about flashes of light and personal wrestle. Please remember there are many perspectives on many things written in books. I am writing this to remind you, the best way to emerge from water is not to try but to let go and you will rise or float up. It’s in the wrestling where we pull ourselves down.

Energy Update & "Gentle"

“Gentle” I saw this energy pattern in July but want to share it now. There is some evidence I see about refinement in energetic relationships with others and ultimately with oneself. With this wave of energy, I highly encourage you to be gentle with yourself while working through it. It seems we are able to hold a more solid level of peace while experiencing minor or more intense upheaval, which in the past may have distressed us. It is as though the situations that are coming forward on some levels are allowing us to see under the veil, to see the role the other is playing for us so the story from our position is cracking apart and being revealed. When dealing with this with another person, ask them gently, in their own time to rise to a higher place of communication. They may never have been able to put voice to their feelings before but when doing it this time they are guarded. The next part is a choice, you can return with defense or coach them to come the direction you feel is better for all involved. You may sit there with no emotional charge from these dealings. This is good. Ask for clarity on the things to say that take this unfolding to its highest level now Change patterns, remember you choose your feelings. (I’ll have a more in depth article about this in two weeks) If you find yourself in the same feelings playing like a broken record, change the pattern. Apply the things you’ve learned, maybe some of these concepts have come from these very articles. Hold boundaries, ask the universe/guides/angels for support, ask and listen moment by moment to what you want and need, then follow it! Address your feelings as they come up to see them in this apocalyptic way, or under the veil. The reminder is be easy on yourself. Make mistakes and recover through laughing at the abundance in your life to keep bringing you situations from which to learn and grow. Once you feel you’ve got it laugh even harder! This is an affirmation of your power to come back to YOU…..to fully awaken into the true you! The other important process that runs alongside being gentle is stop when you feel confused or overwhelmed. Turn off your mind and take a break. When you’re ready start to feel through what you want to see in your life in the coming months. Allow those feelings to infuse into your cells and through you fully. For me this means feeling great joy around my desires, acknowledging them through my power as these experiences and feelings already exist!

Energy Update....Articulate

"Articulate" I wrote this article three years ago for an art organization's newsletter. I reread it from my art blog and felt it is a great post for this week. .....And a great reminder for me, ehem, I mean all of us! I feel a bit derailed from this place I was three years ago but hope to be self inspired and felt finding this article was of course, no accident! Also, I did not edit the article for this post even thought I now may, say these things a little differently. Enjoy! "Your Inner Art Career Search Engine" This may sound a bit funny to you but I waited anxiously for my art career to come. I'm not sure, but I think many artists are no strangers to anxiety, which I define as the attachment to outcome. I showed my art extensively, hoping to get a sale, hoping I'd be discovered! You know what? This all could have worked but my attitude stood in the way. I was positive but didn't have the key to knowing how to let things really take hold. I didn't know what I really wanted. I was lacking confidence. If you meet me, I'm a go-getter, dynamic and fun. The one key I lacked was BELIEF. Unlike 'faith', belief is a personal rule. We set it for ourselves. Only we know our rules, which are formed by our desires. When we find excuses, blame and negativity seeping into our day, it's time to shift gears and ask yourself what you want to experience in your life? My advice? Live life expectant, responsive and know your belief to be true for you. Looking at everything as an opportunity creates excitement each day. I was at a conference in New York. My feet had blisters and I needed two band-aids. A few minutes later I walked out to the lobby and right there in front of me were two band-aids on the floor. Stunned I walked past them. Then as I got a little further I realized those two band-aids were for me. Now, you don't need to think this through too hard to realize that I asked and I got what I needed. While I was busy judging this situation, a concept came to me and gave me a new way to look at things and at 'mistakes' too. Somebody lost their band-aids. However, if we look at this from a different angle, maybe this person needed to ask for band-aids to learn how to ask for help or maybe they needed to learn about disappointment. They make the choice. They decide if they blame or get angry or choose to step beyond the fear and ask for help. I've seen my son learn about disappointment and what a gift for him to now be able to recognize disappointment without attachment, shift and ask for what he wants or needs. I wish this for my mystery band-aid person too. See, when we fill in our strengths with other's weakness we can actually be doing them a disservice. When we allow in place of enabling....coach people through their weakness, now we are being responsive and expectant of their assured success. Or in some cases allow them to fall on their own devices to rise up and roar! Writing down what you want your life experience to be is powerful. Once you've done that, stick to your rule that "you get what you want and need." When you find your thoughts to be negative, turn them to affirming what you DO want. My personal shift was as simple as this: For 5 years I said to others, "My art career is coming". April 2011 I started saying "My art career is here now." I had nothing more than I did before but I kept believing, it was here, feeling it inside, taking small actions each day to see it was true. Since then opportunity has come & the more I say "My art career is here now", the more I notice my confidence soar and people stand up and take notice! What's the difference? The first phrase, "My art career is coming" comes from a place of shame filled with "shoulds." It should come soon, I should make money, I promise, I'll sell something soon, etc. Unknowingly, I was draining myself of worth each time I said it! Get noticed for your infectious, confident self! Starting today, write down what you want your life experiences to be and what you need to do to make your art be its fullest. Keep reminding yourself its here now, feel it and live it. You'll see a change in how others receive you. You know what? This is what we want. We want to be connected to and inspire others, because all of us know, that brings everything else we want. Have fun setting your life up just the way you want it and don't judge the how. Think of my band-aids!

Energy Update "Discombobulated"

Anybody felt the angry train running through your life or witnessing it in others? Anyone seen and felt the pressure in relationships where there have been unresolved root issues or things amiss which are now amplified? Root causes are exposing themselves with strong emotions so they flesh out once and for all. New patterns replace the old and allow change. It seems single “unique to you” core issue are rising in many and pushing in a way for it to be fully resolved. Taking the high road means we act in place of react. However, I would venture to say many are reacting on these biggies. Holding our power is key but when we can’t sort through the mire of what may feel like confusion we can ask for clarity and support or more importantly ride the wave of it while being open to what unfolds. Larger internal questions can be asked, "Am I enabling the other person?" "In this situation with so much energy around it how do I hold my power?" For all of us, making change will allow the energy to unfold and be completed. If you are finding yourself stuck, self-forgiveness may be something to consider. I hope next week I’m writing about the circus being in town! This article is a little heavy.

Energy Update Chaos for some?

What about this chaos? Are you shielding yourself or going in? Some of us are experiencing some confusion and intense emotions. We are fleshing out some characteristics, which no longer serve us. We might find the mirror in a silent partner or relationship who, seems to leave us feeling flat, cold & confused. They may be “just fine” while we struggle. Nothing is wrong with them so it must be us. While I do believe they are mirroring something for us I also believe they play a role in the relationship. If we are big enough to ramp up the law of attraction and put all our energy to loving them and seeing us both in balance, this may do the trick. If the hurt is too deep, I highly recommend finding a method for self-forgiveness. Then go back to the table and evaluate how you feel. If the feelings are not resolved, more self-forgiveness! Good luck navigating these waters for those of you impacted by this energy tide. Remember, it will pass! Peace, Amy

Energy Update Lasting Love

Lasting Love My friend shared a concept with me and I’d like to share it with you. Its called Wabi Sabi love. The idea is that if we find annoyance in another, if we change our perspective about it we can find flow and ultimately more love. After listening to a recorded program about this, what I realized is in some areas of my life I've applied this. Here are some examples to help you learn how to Wabi Sabi love! Growing up it was WRONG to put your hands on a window. If you left a smudge mark you might regret that for years to come, no kidding. So in my own home I have a clear glass window that spans the height of the door. Of course my young children love to see who is coming so there is often hand, nose, mouth, you name it prints on this window. Many years back when my kids were littler, I looked at that window and sighed. Then I rethought about it right in that moment. I could choose to love those hand-prints because they would only be little for so long and I could choose to laugh about the whole mouth window kisses. When I replaced this idea with the old one I felt better! Recently, with my spouse I was challenged with this same type of situation where I had to change my perception of some or ALL (no, just kidding) of his behaviors. You know what? It worked! One week afterward we are more connected in a way we both can feel. (I never had to say anything to him about it, just act on my own new perception and things shifted. An example from the podcast was if your spouse habitually leaves their socks under the kitchen table or leaves a tea bag on the counter each day, deal with it by finding the gold in it. You might choose to say “This proves they exist” or “I can pick up this one thing each day because really it only bugs me and if it is my need, it is my responsibility" or "They are an odd duck who habitually leaves socks under the table but I can love them for it." She went on to talk about how this is really about love through play and laughter. If we can laugh through it then we are doing well. I also want to mention, she quote Harville Hendricks, a fairly well known marriage counselor. “When we nag or pick at another we are creating an act of violence.” Think about that. If we simply focus on what our partners, friends, children, relationships (of any sort) do RIGHT? We will get more of that. Thank you “M” for the reminder about loving with our whole heart, even the things that don’t sync up.

Energy Update "What to do with Crazy Makers"

Several weeks ago I mentioned a conversation I had with a friend about distraction in life keeps us separated. Connection comes when we stay in the present moment. Distraction I liken to crazy making. We all know crazy-makers; those who distract us or need to keep themselves distracted and try to pull us into their storm of distraction too. If you continue to recognize people in life who leave you feeling flat or angry, hold a boundary with them. Statements like, “Let me think about it.” Or “I feel” when talking to them can help. If they are trying to get you to agree to some feeling they have which is of no consequence your real power is to say nothing at all, just listen and stay quiet (no response). Just sit there and look at them. If you just hear them and don’t respond? They’ll dump their anxiety and be more vulnerable with you because you’ve opened a door for them to have intimacy by not having to fill the moment with chatter. It’s a choice to enable them and keep agreeing or rush in to help them when they are in drama. The other choice is to follow YOU by allowing them to go through their ritual but respond differently this time. In this remember not to offer solutions to their problems but instead offer support through messages like, “I bet you’ll figure it out.” Truly, the universe put this in their lap for a reason and it is for them to work through. Keep your friends, don’t get angry at them, instead, rise up and be a new mirror for them and see if they can see their reflection.

Energy Update "Offering Understanding"

“Offering Understanding” Each of us creates a story about our lives from experiences we’ve had. These experiences guide us through our life and are the base for our perceptions. Beyond experiences we each have a personality. This too comes into play when we are dealing with perception. We don’t know what story is true for others. However, may we offer ourselves the opportunity through subtle interaction to better see inside our own story? If we do this then we’ll better understand what is driving the other person to interact with us in certain ways. Each time somebody tells you, you are doing it wrong or makes a comment to put you “in your place” (and sometimes this is subtle) you can hold your power by realizing and even claiming it is their own fear they are projecting on you. I have had this scenario pop up lately. If we don’t know what story is running in other peoples heads clearly we can embrace their perception of the very same interactions can differ vastly from our own. Clearly there is nothing wrong with this unless, you feel a bite from it. Here’s an example. I was doing a physical task with some one. The gist of what they said to me went like this. “Amy, you seem anxious about doing this project.” I stopped and tuned in. Do I feel anxious? I didn’t. So I simply stated, “I feel it is the person who makes the statement who is anxious and is projecting it onto another.” This isn’t truly always the case, in this spot I am uncertain if the person saying this to me was anxious, however, they have a habit of saying things like this to project fear away from them and onto another. So after saying my statement back, the person agreed and most importantly, in time, will stop projecting their feelings onto me. This will change because I am holding a boundary with them. I am freeing us both to relate authentically. And that? That’s love! What story is true for you? I’ve been working these patterns for years to shift into who I am fully. I was taught pathways from my family, as were each of us, which are not part of our truth. However, we also for ourselves must claim the story we tell ourselves about our interactions with others when we are apart from them. I used to measure myself by others successes because I never asked or they never told me about their struggles. Living in peace is about perception. Allow yourself to feel out what is being said and how it relates to you. Then, act on it and say something if the story you are being asked to play a role within is not your story but theirs.

Taking the Mystery out of Abundance

Ok, last week I was going to write about crazy making and tried to write about it this week but that is not what wants to be said, so wait a few weeks and it will show up. If you knew without a doubt you already were timeless and were connected to everything you want, you would know abundance. How would you act and feel? Is this arrogance? NO, this is joy. When we act from abundance others start to see us this way too and what we want seems to come with no effort. Sound impossible? Tried with no tangible result? Don’t give up! Start the process and keep going, indefinitely. This will yield results. There is no timeline for results, if you feel there is, that is your ego telling you so. It will come and your only job is to stay in the perception of abundance. Here are two examples; the first is via power and the second is an example of an expansion of perception. Story 1 I was going on a business trip to Africa some years ago. I was to travel during July and had young children at the time. A friend asked me who would watch the kids and how would that ever work out? I looked at her and said, “I know it will work, friends will step up, people will help.” She stared at me and said, “I can help.” I didn’t waver and this showed my belief in abundance. Story 2 I was talking to a friend about three children who each inherited 2 billion dollars. I immediately started sharing my laundry list of what I would do with that money without him even asking me to share! Then he stopped and said, “Amy, that money IS available to you” I laughed and said, “Wow, I’ve talked about this story so many times but I never put myself in the position of having the money only sharing my dreams if I did have it.” See, this friend believes in focusing on “What is” (not what isn’t) Some people would say, “2 billion $? It will ruin your life….etc” He chose to allow. Do you see the difference? He’s not limiting me or projecting his fear on me. He’s allowing. BE OPEN TO THE FACT THAT YOU ALREADY ARE ABUNDANT. NOTHING CAN CHANGE THIS. Ask for what you want. Ask for friends like mine to point out where you can further your perception of abundance.

Frenzied Pace

“Frenzied Pace?” Anyone familiar with the frenzied pace life can take? I asked one of my guides for advice on how to open my heart because she answered “Open your heart” in response to my question prior to this one. Oye! If I could tell you how many times I’ve been told this AND how many times I’ve been told to tell others this in readings. So let me crack the code because my guide told me a way to access or start this process. I believe most of us are living off the reptilian brains and experience life through fight or flight. Our current living conditions make for a very over stimulating place! There are many ways to reprogram, choose to change or shift into an open heart or as I may say it, “living from feeling or discernment and action” in place of living from reaction and judgment. Also, do you see how I layered and asked an additional question to get further to the root of the response? Yes you do! Ok, so my guide showed me how we do things in a frenzied state. Then she showed me how we can just as easily choose to do them from a place of calm. We can get the same result while staying in alignment with our bodies, minds and souls. In this scenario we are talking about opening our heart to ourselves. Being gentle and compassionate with who we are. Our nature is to be calm. Observe where you find yourself frenzied. Is it at home, at work or out with friends? How can you choose calm in this situation? If you can’t choose calm, how can you ask for support? Ask during the heat of the moment to yourself. What can I do to experience peace? Keep asking with each new situation until what is needed unfolds. I find this type of learning comes in waves. Go with the wave! Wave back at it too! I recognized when I drive the car I can be quite stressed. If you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. I am in a metal box on hard pavement with hundreds of others whizzing by, billboards, children and music adding to the mix, perhaps heading to a, foreign to me, destination. This is a lot for one person to do. Not to mention what perhaps was going on before we even reached the car! Packing a lunch, making sure teeth were brushed and hair combed, phones were answered, and spills were mopped, you get the picture! Now when I am driving the car I am so relaxed I almost fall asleep! I never realized how stressed I was when I drove the car. Who knew? However, driving in a city is a Limbic system in overdrive! So now, if you see me on the road, honk loudly because I am catching up for lost time and letting in my inner calm!

Creating Joy

Wow, the Universe works in mysterious ways! I wrote this, then left to work away from home. While away, I had just this very thing I am writing about happen! This is about you. It is about taking care of your self. It is about choosing to shift only toward joy. If something “takes you down” STOP! Stop in your tracks and get back with and to you. If it is a person who stops you in your tracks, even if they are close to you, stop! Stop engaging with them. Let them come to you when they want or need you, then decide what is right for you at that moment. If it is a situation, how can you change it up? How can you allow a new experience in place of what keeps happening? Stop trying and remember to ask. “Show me how to change this situation so I find my joy & flow.” “Show me if I am to be part of this situation any longer.” “Support me to use wisdom to choose people and situations, which fill me up.” When people say or do things that make you upset. Let it go! It’s not yours to hold. Instead, turn back to yourself and allow space for you to release it. Get it out of your head and push it through and out of your heart. Then ask yourself what would support you right now? Act on it. Don’t judge it. In doing readings lately the message is “to be,” to slow down and take a break! The good news is they’ve also been instructed to release the guilt and allow themselves to receive the break as a much, needed departure from being overly occupied. Which brings me to a point and the theme of my next article. A friend and I spoke today and it came to me that distraction is the source of our separation. If we are able to stay connected to now, “to be” we achieve a constant connection to source. So go be! Release those who trouble you. Life is meant to be joy filled and easy. What step can you create this week to add to your joy?

Energy Update "When everybody......"

“When everybody got what they wanted peace arrived with no effort at all” What if everyone got their highest good met? What if we gave up suffering and chose to allow ourselves to feel what we want to feel? See nobody can make you feel anything. That perception comes from our experiences in life and many of us conformed to our societal demands (whatever they have been for each of us) and some of us shaped to fit somebody else’s agenda. When we ask ourselves what do we want? We might think of some things. However, if we keep asking at every turn, what do we want? And we narrow it about career, relationships and health, if our life were pure pleasure, joy and ease, what would that look and more so feel like? I’ve been traveling the past two weeks. Prior to leaving town I worked on intentions (manifesting) for my career. I’m delighted to report a lot has come from getting excited about my career and setting personal goals/aspirations. Then I followed my flow, my bliss and from this knew just what events to take in and which ones to dismiss and voila! I had two fantastic opportunities, in alignment with my intentions to the Universe, come my way prior to my departure. Now I am looking to other areas of my life using my career as an example. I find myself “cleaning house”, fleshing out just how I want to feel from relating to others and about my health. I find making decisions about where to place my energy and where to keep it for me takes courage and an active relationship with my heart and joy to guide me. I have had my moments! However, I care enough about myself to explore my deeper needs which for most of us, the root of which, is simply the feeling of joy and of course love. Trust yourself this week. Ask yourself, “What brings you true joy?” Then love yourself to the good feelings this brings. Then reap the benefits. Its all about the law of attraction! Go claim what’s yours. ….And? if everyone got what they really wanted, the world would have peace.

Energy Update, "Conflict"

When we have conflict our natural tendency may be to run! There are fighters and flighters! Who are you? I find most Midwestern people are flighters. I had a psychologist once tell me people of Germanic heritage struggle with conflict because in their DNA lies the message, “If we fight, we fight to the death.” While this makes a bit of sense, I also see this idea transfer to Nordic peoples and other possible cultures too. So why am I writing this article? Because I think conflict is very valuable! If you can say it, if you can go all of the way into the anger inside or push the buttons of another you will hear the belief come right out of their mouth or YOURS! This is pure gold for those who want to actualize their beliefs and reorder them to fit who they are now. I had a work relationship for 8 months with a person and what I didn’t realize was how she was always trying to take my power and I was not doing a thing about it! I think she didn’t even know it. There came a point when we had to renegotiate something. We came to an impasse so we then agreed to add a third party into the mix. The third party is somebody I know can hear all sides and is fair so this seemed perfect! We met for the third time and the “third” person wasn’t there. I asked why? She stammered and I could tell she was lying to me. I lost it. It was 8 months of slowly being power pillaged. Its my fault for not holding my power with her but she also could have been kind and respectful too. What was really happening was we were playing a role for each other and that final role she played for me was to scream my head off and “take it”. She didn’t take it and ran back to her office pointing fingers at me for being horrible! However, I didn’t care what the result. I had gotten something better than making this situation work. I had gotten the chance to spew on her everything I regarded myself to lack. I yelled at her all of the things I reject about me (my shadow). I later tried to reconstruct my violent outburst and was able to recapture most of it, work with it and grow. That was a huge gift this woman gave me. I’d never be able to tell her but I was able to share it with the person who stepped in to work with me forward going. See, so the conflict elicited change, change I needed. I was not cast out but accepted and my needs were met. I was paired then with a new communicator who to this day is a joy with which to work. Conflict is an opportunity. You don’t have to get wildly angry either. You just have to say it, to say what is absurd, seems judgmental and rude. You have to risk loosing your cool to get to the heart of the matter.

Energy Update “Recognizing the negative voice”

How do we crack the code of the negative voice in our mind? We start listening for it, once we recognize it we can learn how to tune it out and allow our positive mind to speak over the other. Being present is the key. Being present is when you have a thought and your negative voice chides you, stop the thinking. I visualize a white screen. Then I stay there and if the negative thoughts come in I see them but do not let them influence me. I let them float out, just as they floated in. Now if you find yourself running in circles in life. This is time to apply another tool. STOP, tune in and see what is the most opposite thing to do. If you have a deadline for something and you are feeling hungry and tired. To stop the intensity of the voice you’d be better to eat a little something and take a nap, then to keep pushing to meet your deadline. What are you really doing? You are coming back to presence. See the negative mind is at the ready to overthrow you. Your job is to recognize it, release it or act on the opposite. Naps, walks and watching a movie are my favorite ways to stop this voice. The more we release these thoughts with neutrality, the more we stop them. I practiced this for a week. This is a big lesson for me…and had two days of shear bliss in my power. Then I let the negative mind over throw me. I could see it in action but feigned interest in working with it to stop it and voila, there I am back at the negative mind running my show. I personally have let this voice of ego run the show at points in my life, especially lately. Ouch, it hurts. What I can tell you about this is when you know you’ve achieved presence you won’t care to tell others about it or make promises to others how you will be more or can do that extra thing. You will be quiet within yourself, know you are enough and worthy. This is the sign of an open heart, because it is discerning life, in place of trying. So at each moment you feel a negative message come in, release it, it is not divine. Divine messages are only positive ones. If you struggle with this voice, tell yourself 10 times a day, “I love myself and all of my cells in my body too.” “I am enough” Rejoice in your inner world that becomes when you stop beating yourself up and start working with the voice inside. Once you gain solid grounding with this, keep up the new voice of self-love so your natural power will be fully alive!

Energy Update, Self Judgment, working with our inner voice

“Self Judgment, working with our inner voice” I am reading a book called, “There is nothing wrong with you” by Cheri Huber. She teaches us how to stop the inner negative voice, which can make you feel low about and second-guess yourself. If we’re insecure we may look for validation outside of ourselves. We need and deserve to create an inner voice that loves and supports us so we can get this from us first, then what others say will mean way more to us. If we do this we achieve flow and peace. Things like manifestation become simple because we are already in our flow. How do we achieve it? By being in the present moment. See, when we look to the future or into the past, we cannot be in the oneness and we are then in our ego. Our egocentric modality takes over and creates who we are in place of being present and allowing us to truly be us, magnificent beings! If we operate moment to moment we can work with our ever- changing feelings but if we hold rigidly to being something for somebody else or “try”, we are in our ego. This is especially a grand trap for women. “If I just do this one more chore, I’ll have more time tomorrow.” That extra time never happens. Why? Because we are focused on future and pushing ourselves to do something maybe we don’t want to do. We also are justifying it, “If I, then “X”. If we tune in at that moment and ask what we want, we may see we have the energy to do the extra chore. With no judgment or resentment included, the task is simple for us and the next day we do find we have more time. If we tune in and the message is sit, go to bed, read a book or other? We need to follow the resting otherwise we are in the negative voice trap. Next week the article will be on how to stop the negative voice.

Energy Update "Recognizing when you are giving your power away"

“Recognizing when you’re giving you power away” If we operate from beliefs where we can’t see how they sabotage us, what are we supposed to do? Here’s a story that may help you see where these patterns are and change them. My husband and I have purchased two new cars in our life. The other cars have been used. When purchasing used cars we’ve had exceptional people to deal with for the sale. Truly! Kind, relaxed about the process and we felt heard. So what happened the two times we went to buy new cars? We gave our power away. We must carry a belief about getting service when making a big purchase because I can see it written all over MANY big ticket transactions we’ve made together. Windows, getting the house painted and others! However, I’ve especially sat with discomfort over the car purchases. One scenario we’d given somebody an opportunity to match the price to give them the sale on a car at a competing dealership. They agreed but when we went out of our way to pick the car up, they told us how this is a bad deal for them and they were sour with us. I just took it and didn’t say a thing. But now I see I needed to stand up and say, “Well, sounds like you didn’t want our sale after all. We’ve made special arrangements and come some distance to work with you, so now we’ll be going because we don’t do business this way.” This is challenging for me even reading this because I don’t want to hurt anybody but how we were treated WAS inappropriate. We offered the option for this person to match the price or miss the sale. When they made that choice to take the sale they needed to feel good about it. Not guilt us. The second time we went in excited but unsure of what we fully wanted. We drove some cars, looked around and finally decided. The color we wanted was at another dealership. When it came in it looked wrong to us both. A used car salesman was standing around and said, “Don’t every buy a car if you don’t like the color. You will regret it!” He then went on to tell us a story about how his dad did just this once and it illustrated the point nicely. However, our salesperson sighed with his hands on his hips like we were really putting him out by asking to order a different car. We are making a HUGE purchase (to us). I’ve often thought about these scenarios and at some point I figured it out because I sent a plumbing company away when they weren’t giving what they promised. They told me how inconvenient this was and I told them if they want my business they better send somebody who can plumb copper! I finally convinced the woman who had come with the plumber from their office to leave and send the other guy another day. Something was up anyway, why’d she come with this plumber??? In the end I feel she lied to me. She told me the other plumber we wanted was at a funeral. When he did come to do the work I said, “I’m sorry for your loss and he ducked his head and moved by me fast and without a word. However, what dawned on me the other day was…..and maybe none of you have these problems…..but what I realized is these left me ruminating for years. Wondering what I’d done wrong to make these people be mean to us or treat us poorly. That’s when it hit me. If you are ruminating about anything, you are stuck on some belief. If you can address what you are bringing back up in the way of thoughts and replaying the story of hurt, you can address, in time, the root cause. So go out there and fire plumbers, ask for another car…use your power and trust your heart’s desire!

Energy Update "Talons Locked"

Energy Update “Talons Locked” Image title "First in Flight" Some 6 years ago I was at the Wabasha Eagle Center with my family. As my son and daughter watched the handlers with these huge birds, they warned that next they would feed a rat to the birds and if anyone wanted to move closer now would be a good time. My son, 4 at the time nudged me. We went up and with him on my lap watched and listened to the bird crack that animal apart right before us. My son was quiet and big eyed, then he leaned back into me a bit and said, “That is BEAUTIFUL and DISGUSTING, but BEAUTIFUL.” The reason I share this is I’ll never forgot that day because of what he said. Something else that was shared that day was that Bald Eagles mate for life. When they are selecting a mate they do tricky flying maneuvers to interest the other. Then when both Eagles decide they are “the one” they both fly up very high in the sky, lock talons and free fall. If they make it to the ground, are able to separate and fly back to meet each other, in the world of Bald Eagles, they are married! The reason we were told they do this is to identify who is a viable mate to “match” them. There were some facts pointing toward, if they do this and fail, they likely wouldn’t be able to reproduce together. WOW, maybe we need humans to lock talons before...... So about 2 years ago I set an intention to see this happen in nature and for it to act as a sign for me. So in the middle of some tricky challenges in my life, I am driving to some support two hours away from my home, two times in a week. I am driving back from my second trip and you guessed it! I saw three Bald Eagles flying about when two of them lock talons, free fall and land behind some trees. The spinning birds looked like a sculpture falling from the sky. I couldn’t believe it. I reached to turn off the radio in the car and just watch. When they landed the third bird flew down to them and then away quickly. I am guessing that was a male who was making sure it was a match. Too bad for him it was, now he’s going to have to get back on “EagleMate.com” This is really a rare chance, especially at this time of year because mating normally takes place in January & February. This year maybe due to the cold, snowy and very long winter the birds are mating later? Or perhaps they court a year, build that HUGE nest and get ready for the following mating season. My intention for this article is a reminder to tell you to ASK for what you want! ASK! ASK! ASK! If you'd like to learn more about the Law of Attraction, check out the work of Esther and Jerry Hicks. You can find them on Hay House.

Energy Update "Being in Our Truth"

"Being in Our Truth" What does being in our truth look like? It is accepting who we are fully, that we make mistakes and still love ourselves and that we see ourselves as magnificent and divine beings, no matter what. Ways to achieve this: framing life struggles with perspective, allowing our soul to speak and create upon its goals, needs and desires. These are the things that make magic for the human. Also, being able to find a center, peace among chaos or distress. These are the signs of purpose and truth. Wow, that all sounds noble! However, the real thing about truth, and this is what makes it so difficult, is it is about us being us. We are going to say, do and experience things which create discomfort. Truth comes in when none of that matters (compassion). When we accept ourselves as whole, no projecting on others, just allowing them to be them and us to be us. We don't want to change people but instead love them and allow them to be them. We might choose to hold boundaries to keep us in our truth. Choosing expectancy over expectations and responsiveness over responsibility will help in relationships because these qualities are naturally related to discernment (knowing) over judgement (facts evaluated by the mind). People will feel vulnerability and acceptance if you approach life expectant & responsive and that is sure to create great relationships, fill you up and support your inner peace!

Energy Update "Self Nurture"

“Self Nurture” This theme is part of the trinity of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness. This is the place where self-love arrives. What I am finding at its root, in my own journey, is self-nurture may be foreign to most of us. You might be saying in your head, I go get massages and attend yoga classes. While this can be a form of self-nurture, I want to focus on a smaller facet of this concept. When we are feeling low and need boosting up most of us look outside of ourselves. It is ok to get support in this process of nurturing, however if you want to find self-nurture, you’ll avoid your friends and the Internet and explore soothing your fears on your own. To be honest, I didn’t know what self-nurture was until a few days ago. It is about staying with the pain, the feelings. Just being with them. This is what a mother would do to nurture her child, be with them so they know they are supported. The mother can’t really take the feelings away but give perspective to ease the child. We can look to ourselves to go in and find perspective among the bits we’ve disowned or forgotten. Go through the feelings to go out. In place of flailing at solutions, ask yourself, “What feels right? What clarity do I need to achieve my desired results? How do I ask for these needs to be met? Then we need to release resistance to allow what we want to flow to us, give the fear over to the angels, guides, or source. You can also talk to yourself. Who wrote an article and encouraged people to talk to themselves? Ok, me. Have a dialog with your inner and outer you. See what, can be gained by placing your hand over your heart and talking to the fear. Touch your arm like a mother would to support yourself. Be your best advocate, wrestle through it but what you are doing is huge! You are fully accepting you and this is a key to peace.

Energy Update "Looking for Joy"

Now that we have all successfully have surrounded ourselves with people who view the world from “What is” What’s next? We can focus our attention on seeing the joy in life! I was on an airplane, which had just landed as I actualized my next request from the Universe. I asked to see all of the joy around me. As the plane stopped, people shot up to grab bags and claim their space on the aisle to exit. A father, mother and child rode in the row ahead me. The dad stood up to get their bag and when he turned around to face his row, his little daughter reached her arms up. He set the bag down and brought the child into his arms, she immediately snuggled her head on the father’s shoulder and neck. Contentment and love! That is what I saw. However, what brought me even more joy was the couple in the aisle in front of this father. As all of this was happening, the couple in front of them was watching this dad and child too. This couple was likely ready to start a family of their own. The hope in the woman’s eyes for love of this kind, for her spouse and herself, wanting to be needed, wanting to be able with one small gesture to calm her own child......this yearning oozed from her giant smile. Seeing her brought me great joy. To remember back to when I too could be this for my own children or even for another person. This is a great example of Zero Point Manifestation. We can ask and receive immediately. I left the plane and started this leg of my journey seeing joy all over the place! Somebody outside the plane helped another by taking their hand because their elderly legs weren’t the same as his younger ones. Did I impact this quantum field of ours by requesting to see joy and asking to open the hearts of myself and others? Or was my attention only drawn to what was already always there? Tune your focus to joy. The contrast of this is lack. We deserve to live in "What is" (abundance & expansion) and if we are really committing to this we will ask to see joy, happiness and love in abundance around us and for us!

Energy Update "Self-Acceptance"

Anything you reject in yourself must me reviewed, let go and a new belief formed. This is the work we are summing up from early November of 2013. We've worked through the winter months of facing "being wrong" and moved into flat out "rejection" any feelings of rejection we hold are gaining clarity. We must believe in abundance to thrive and self-love is a good place to feel abundant. We can see our self-rejection in the judgments others make about us. We can choose to act on them by either letting them go or keep feeling badly about them and ruminate (keep thinking again and again relaying the story in our head). Why would we choose to relive them? Because we believe them. Stop believing them. Let go. If you're scared, claim it, ball your fists and scream at the Universe, I am scared and I am ready to thrive. We also can recognize this pattern when we set expectations for things. No expectations, in place of this be expectant, excited like a child who doesn't know what's going to happen. Accepting yourself is about accepting our truth, what we came here to do. This does not need to be a heavy burden. I will share something I heard a woman by the name of Dahna Fox who teaches about the Akashic records says. "We are here to learn to be happy as humans". If that is it, what are we letting stop us? I've hidden my needs for many years. I am claiming them and my life is encouraging more play and creativity. It also is allowing my soul to fully sing. My intuition for my life is stronger. This is what we want. Meet your needs and listen to you. Share only with those who can truly love you unconditionally I know some of you are thinking, “That is one person or a small group of people” Let your expansive nature call in more of these people to your life. By asking for this desire to be met you are also asking the Universe to unravel more people from their “Myth” and offer them their truth. This is a noble request you’ve made!

Energy Update "Judgment & Projection"

I've written about judgment many times. However, the theme has come up again. Personally, I see it defining who is in and who is out in my life. That creates pain and I want to convey the message clearly that your divine truth is about releasing people who judge you. I believe most people mean no harm; it is their fear they are projecting on you. The friends who are "The Ones"? They are able to allow in place of projecting their fear on you. They are able to love you for your faults as well as your strengths. They are able to allow you to pursue what you feel is good for you and accept that is true for you. They accept you and share vulnerability with you. This is healthy! So we need to cut communication with these projectors or be with them with non-attachment. Meaning we can leave them and leave all conversation and exchanges behind with them. No thinking or running the story again in your head (Ruminating). Last week I talked about asking. This is a great place to ask if you are confused if their advice is correct or they are projecting. Questions you could ask yourself to find out are; "Is what they are saying true for me?" "Is what they are pointing out serving me or does it make me feel afraid?" "Can I take they're observation and make use of it?" These answers will help guide you to know if they are pure of heart. If you are still unsure, ask the Universe. Just like last week, ASK at every turn until you see the pattern or gain clarity, meaning you can see it from more than one angle. Letting the people go who project or judge you is an act of compassion. You are releasing them in place of enabling for them to perpetuate the story. You are perfect as you are and for those of you awakening, which is everybody reading this post, its ok to change and move forward in life. A nice thing to practice is sending the person who judges you, especially when it stings, love. Send them love to practice allowing their current expressive needs. That is where they are and this is where you are and all is well.

Energy Update "A Mention of Intention"

What do you intend in your life? Take a look at it, step back and see how it truly serves you. We know where we're stuck in our lives because we can feel it. But how do we know how to change it if we can't clearly see the root of it? We need to understand it so we can change the perception. Can we use displeasure as a catalyst to change our life? Yes. Every answer is in the contrast. If the issue we're having seems unending, seems overwhelming, we can use the tool of asking the Universe for help. One key to this, especially at this very time is to ask at every turn. With each facet of your challenge, ask for clarity. Questions or requests you may ask the Universe could look something like this; "Show me the clarity behind what drives this situation." "Bring me tools and support to help change this situation." "Let me see both sides of this situation so I can have self-compassion." Many things may come your way, go with the one that is most deeply of interest to you. You'll know the one! If nothing feels right? KEEP ASKING! Our inner guidance knows who we are, it never forgot. We can tap into that part of us by asking for clarity. Another way to go about this is to address the strongest, biggest most fearsome issues in our life and chase them with a hot poker! Ok, that is probably only me that would do that. What if we take our personal issue and ask (some might call this prayer) the Universe at every turn to show us clarity. Ok, so we see some clarity in the next days. Then we ask for support in changing this perception of whatever it stems around, generally some form of "lack" and ask how we become abundant in this area? (Whether it is in health, money, career, love or relationships) This exercise is not about asking for money but the clarity on how to overcome the root belief exposing it so we can move into a place of understanding with it. If we understand what the root cause is, we simply have to ask questions like these. How does this perception drive my life now? What do I want in place of seeing things this way? What feelings do I want to feel in place of the ones I’m now feeling? Yes! Here is the key. Ask all of the time, ask the universe for what you need. If you have no struggles in life but feel unsatisfied, ask for your needs to emerge from within you. This is another angle to meet this same concept. Gain the strongest support system, a connection to the divine.

Energy Update "Patterns"

Energy Update "Patterns" I see many of us recognizing patterns in our life, like themes we wish we could drop or shake from us, they can sometimes cling on and persist even through our best efforts. However, if you are recognizing patterns that persist and are able to see your emotions in it clearly you are on the right path! Allowing yourself to feel the awkward feelings while you muddle through new territory as you navigate your mystery has great importance! We are working the pathways back to us. We are forming new beliefs. Now without wavering we know what we need, what is right for us and release becoming something "other" to enable others. In us following who we really are, we allow everybody with which we relate to fully live in their truth. The message I am sharing is where boundaries, self-worth and self-love combine to create empowerment. We no longer hold up the story of another, we know now this is enabling them to perpetuate patterns to keep them away from their "real them". In place of this we feel our way through what we want. This requires us to be gentle with ourselves and make missteps. I feel it is when we can accept "folly" we really find peace. Some ways to support our human minds in this process. Make a list! Get organized! Making a list of everything that has been hanging over you allows us to have more perspective. Now take that giant list and put it into perspective. What really needs to get done and what scares you the most? Do the scary things first and ASK the Universe for support. Breaking it down into steps can help. Is your mind still reeling? Write out three pages. No thinking, if you can't think of what to say? Write "I have nothing to say" again and again until words come. You can type it but hand writing is better. This releases the negative mind that can drag us down. The list gives us perspective. From here? If you can't see what you feel or need clearly, step back and look. Still can't see it? Start making a list of things you've enjoyed in the past. List your top 5 skills and ways to nourish those. Then put it into action, get out there and have fun, do things you're soul needed to experience but you'd put off. Need a tropical vacation? Can't afford it? Go to the local arboretum or better yet a conservatory where there is humidity and heat galore and plants that are flocked in dew. Be creative in place of thinking you have limits. A perspective of limitless allows massive abundance in experience! We must allow space for us if we want to authentically have space for others in our life. Go find and meet yourself again!

Energy Update "Expansiveness"

"Expansiveness" In the past months when I read I see people being asked to expand horizontally. I see it like a cloud of energy extending from either side of them outward a long distance. It is our divine nature to expand and to be expansive. Creating is an example of expansion. So is intentionally letting our energy go outward further than we normally do. This energy can also speak to us developing our power further so we can harness the energy which is our "possibility in life" or full potential. Why can it do this? Because it IS WHO WE ARE. Somehow when I work to grasp a way to support this energetic concept as an idea for a human, I struggle. What I can tell you is this energy where most people are expanding at this time horizontally, there are a few people who are expanding vertically. I am a person who makes connections to things so for me those two energies make the form of a cross. The other thing that struck me is the majority of people are expanding horizontally, and the energy is reflected in a white type energy. Those who are expanding vertically show their energy in as dark. It is not that light and dark that draws me in as a sign of good and bad, it is the contrast and formation. Our earth experience is one of contrast. A master told me many years back via the quantum field, "The answer is always in the contrast" and it is so. (This is one place we can say always!) I went to the internet to search and came up short but Wikipedia spoke to me through this statement from my search of "human symbolism of the cross". The cross is one of the most ancient human symbols (omitted a section) as the union of the concepts of divinity, the vertical line, and the world, the horizontal line (Koch, 1955). This week my point was to kindly leave you thinking. I do not have an answer or moral to this story. It is just a pattern I see which I felt compelled to share. Go expand in what it is for you and know your growth this way will serve all humankind.

Energy Update "Unfold"

Energy Update "Unfold" Steps of clarity are here! We each can embrace the steps we've taken and those steps we have yet to take to ascend the "staircase". A funny and accurate metaphor that in all honesty came from my fingers, not my mind. I see many people having moments of clarity about themselves, their life and purpose. I know those moments may feel fleeting but understand they are there for you because you understand more than you did a week, month or year before. These spots of clarity will amplify, at least the ones who need a replacement belief. When you have these moments, attach only to the fact that you will, in time, have full understanding of the meaning of this clarity. That the clarity will "become so" and you will be able to articulate it and put it into action in your life. I see a lot of drive in people and then they are exhausted. We are learning to let things come to us in place of "hard work". The more we meet this the more we can flow with this new paradigm available to us. Invest your attention in your highest good. Asking the question if you aren't sure about something ask "Is this for my highest good?" We train the reflex of your divine needs when we keep asking this question/tuning into our needs. I titled this unfold because we are doing so in this moment. Is this a monumental unfolding? No, this is a "platform moment" to subtly recognize what strides and changes we've made. We can see these changes through our actions, we may be less reactive and more activated. We don't swallow under and follow what we are being told, we speak up. If we are not heard we let go. We establish boundaries so our pattern, interaction and ability to be heard change because we are revealing our power. We have grown and shifted so much. Allowing moments in your life to acknowledge this (when it pops up or not) is a great way to show gratitude.

Energy Update "Panning for Gold"

Energy Update "Panning for Gold" Shake it up, shake up your pan of the pieces which make up your life and who you are. Sift through the gold nuggets hidden among the average pebbles. What sticks out and catches your eye? Run rushing water over the pan and see what emerges. I am not kidding you this is the exact metaphor I'm seeing. It is about bringing forward that which makes us unique but in the way of self exploration and purely recognizing it for oneself. Hang out with whatever you see which are your "sparkly parts". If you see one or many, hang out with them for little bits during your day. Ask what they want to express, what they want to expand into. Ask how that looks and how this can be accomplished. You may see things, like go take a nap. Did you go take the nap? No? Then you're only digging for fool's gold! follow these messages, even if they seem silly. If they seem scary, ask them to clarify and challenge them. Claim your feelings, "I'm too afraid to do this, put it in my path to do this same thing on a smaller scale." As an example, say you were told to sky dive and that made you feel fearful. If you ask for this to come in another form, you might find yourself being asked to take a child to a "fun center" that has a wall for repelling or a GIANT jumping pad. These can be ways to do the same thing but on a smaller scale. Allow, ask and engage. You're going learn things about yourself dimensionally that you never would have known if you didn't push through the confusion into these messages. Put on your curious child suit and push away the feisty teenager attitude, that won't serve you because you are an adult and you know who you are. Consider you are just picking up some gold you forgot you had in you. Be the child, be expectant, no expectations, just curiosity. Go find your gold! Many of you will find a gold rush, so go stake your claim!

Energy Update "Foreshadow"

Lets define foreshadowing as presuming something before it has happened based on the facts that keep adding up. I think of this as "catching onto something". Like when we watch a movie we can start to figure out what's going to happen before it indeed does. In place of doing this can we impact, by thought situations before they occur? Yes, I believe we all can. This powerful tool is a practice, just like yoga, Reiki, etc. We work with it until we learn how we best let it works for us. If you are headed into an interaction which in the past has offered results that had you holding low emotional states, consider changing your thinking prior to engaging. Here's how. Next time you're headed to interact in any situation, set intention! Do this anytime prior to your event or interaction. As an example I was headed to be with somebody who is a vampire (no, its nobody on this list because you are all magnificent!). This person can level me in one look. However, before heading there I thought about the contrast of how I wanted to feel when I left and setting these intentions: "Its my intention to be able to have both of us interact vulnerably, for us both in our own way enjoy this exchange and lastly, when I leave it is my intention I leave with a sense of peace." For a quick second while driving there I "meditated" on the feelings I may feel based on my requests and then projected into what the scene may look like, both of us laughing, letting down our guard and relating. They initially were making comments which may make me react by feeling like they are pushing me away. In place of feeling sensitive to this I stated my honest needs. They thought on it a few minutes, relaxed and admitted they needed the same. Unexpected result! Vulnerability! Soon after this they admitted the project we were working on is something they'd wanted to do for some time but they never could get to it on their own. This brought me joy and I feel it brought them joy too. We were both able to flow and want the same thing. If we both believe in something we are likely to benefit from it no matter what. Athletes who spend time visualizing their performance, perform better than those who do not do this. Adopt this method in your daily life and reap the rewards! Lastly, I did leave with a sense of peace. I was really impressed about how I impacted this situation. I set out a model for it and the interaction turned into my prototype. I also played a key role in holding my power, claiming my honest needs and this further opened the doors for my intention. Get to it! Impact your interactions with your highest intention. What a profound way to love oneself!

Energy Update "Collapse"

Energy Update This week is "Collapse" Okay, there is a lot to say this week. Lately, I've shared with some of you my sense is November 2013 to early April 2014 we are working on self- forgiveness, self-acceptance and self-love. In this we face the thing which may be hardest for us to embrace, US. Shadows out people! Get the mirror and turn it on yourself! You can do this! If you find your soul journey boat is in these self forgiveness waters, here are some tools to help you along the way. When somebody acts toward us in a way we don't like they are likely showing us our shadow (the parts of us we reject.) Holding boundaries is one way to remedy this. Another way is to stage a pseudo conversation with them. Pretend to play both parts, you and them. Pretend to be reactive with them blaming them for how they treated you. What would you say? If you can figure this out you can identify what parts of you, you are rejecting. Get into it if you are able to do so. Get angry, the more angry and worked up you get the more likely you are to sputter out the root issue, so go to it, collapse the story! The concept of Collapse I am speaking about is from Radical Forgiveness taught by Colin Tipping. Reinvent yourself is an easy way to sum up what I am about to say. Where you are stuck, make vast changes, reel in your sails and set a new course but only do this in the areas of your life which are not flowing for you. You release all status as a victim and in place of this are empowered. I'm grateful for the tool that is Radical Forgiveness. It changed my whole perspective on how we relate to one another as humans and it's definitely taught me about compassion. It also taught me that Source Energy, God, or Universal Energy is on my side and these people who have co-created so much upset have done so for us both to learn and grow. This is a much more powerful view and position on adversity. I'll also note, there are many ways to approach this aspect of forgiving, letting go and allowing. Radical Forgiveness isn't the only way. Many of us in the mid-west hold the belief "conflict makes us unlovable". So touching into these parts of ourselves might make us feel like our whole life will collapse if we do it. I can tell you just the opposite will occur. Another source for me to remind myself to hold my own power is the teaching of Anita Moorjani. You can watch her speak on Youtube. Anita had a near death experience and shares from this, "It is only our magnificence we need to remember and feel to heal ourselves and to manifest our desires." I now understand this as an extension for what Collin taught me about collapsing the story and reframing it. This is a way we see "under the veil" (what drives the person to act or react toward us as they do/did). What is real is love, not the story that is held up to hide somebody from love. Meaning, we can see the other person's plight, circumstance and have compassion for them. We may hold a boundary or just flow with them because now we understand what motivated them to treat us as they did. And we remember we are magnificent so only love can touch our lives. While this seems like a big thing it actually is so simple that it seems impossible to apply. Remember when we're going through these belief changes we cycle through the "The Myth, Mystery and the Miracle". This is a good tool to allow yourself some grace and non-attachment while changing a belief. The "Myth" is the belief which we recognize no longer serves us. We let go of the belief and step into the Mystery, a place where we are awkwardly bumping around a bit to figure out our replacement belief. We may find people who really love us cannot hear what we say on this topic, its as though we are alone with it. This is of purpose so we can form the new belief without influence outside of ourselves. Then comes the Miracle, the point at which you hit a platform of giving up the old story, you've broken the pattern! Now others around you will sort out their energy to align with yours, watch for people saying things to you that show you they are taking what you were carrying before you changed the belief. This part always makes me giggle a bit when I see it! Revel in it, you did it! I hope these tips help you in the inner journey to self love. To go deeper with this consider having a reading so you can get to the bottom of sticking points, turn your sails and flow onward!

Energy Update "Positive Thinking"

Energy Update Positive thinking! We've all heard it, we've all tried it, however, if you want to master manifestation, you've got to empower it in your life. Start by thinking positively! The most powerful thing is for us to remember we have choices, we have the power to change a situation. Readings influence these articles and this week's readings had to do with projecting out to the world what we desire next, in place of the fear and worry of what might be. Don't throw life to the wind thinking you have not power in it. Engage! Here are some ways to do so- We can choose, in the worst of situations to look at the positives. I've been doing this since the holidays and saw an increase in the things I wanted in my life. However coming into this week I could feel a change, a force banging the drum over my positivity into my negative voice. Recognizing it I decided to work with it at points to see how I could impact it. Sometimes it was fierce and toppled me. If this voice topples you, are you overly tired? Have you eaten well? Have you gotten enough down time? I ask these questions because sometimes the voice gets louder the more we deprive our needs or allow others to take our power. Think about it! Small steps! If we believe there is not enough time to do what we want, we must then tune our dial to "There is plenty of time for me to complete everything". If you keep expressing this message, you will find the extra time comes. If it is not right away, let go.....give it a chance! Be grateful when you see it happen. You must believe that what you really want to be or do is just a thought away and that that thought builds off of each next thought and if we think the dynamic thoughts about what we want they are likely to come in dynamic ways. Feel it inside as though what you want is already happening. Just fake it 'til you make it! One additional tidbit...... Stand up as a parent, grandparent, teacher, etc. to learn healthy boundaries with children so neither child nor ourselves are drained of energy. For people who spend time around children visit www.loveandlogic.com Simple methods that leave your child's, grandchild's, friend's child, student's, etc. soul intact.

Limiting Beliefs be gone spray is available at St Michael's by the bedside store........

This week's post is about Limiting Beliefs, we've all got 'em! I mean, I don't but everybody else does. Erhem. (Clearing throat because I am lying) Last week I asked for a lot of support in several directions in my life. I need some catalysts to help me move in directions, lets face it, where I keep getting stuck. I know a way to prime this pump on my own is to be resourceful. When I travel I best tap into this by "working with what I have". This makes me feel relaxed and inspires me because I see the joy in creating whatever I need out of something other. A new outfit emerges due to spilled mustard. You reach into the resources at hand and see what you can make of it. Are you with me creators? Yes you are! However, I am recognizing through a series of patterns which translate to insanity, in my daily life I fail this attribute miserably! So, I had to ask myself some questions. Why in daily life do I struggle to be as resourceful in this same way as when I travel? Because I judge it and hold expectations. Why? Because I feel trapped. Why? Because of routine. So it was that easy for me to see the pattern I've perpetuated to keep the insanity flowing. Ick. Now the antidote came out of what I was judging. I realized to prime the pump in the areas of my life which need igniting I'd have to visit what held me back. I realized I need more connection and power with art. The limiting belief was "I can't play or take the time to create a relationship with art." So I asked myself to make art each day. I added an additional day to my week where I would focus on making art outside of my home. I also asked for support from a savvy eye in the field where I'd like my art to head and if they'd use a cattle prod and ease me along the narrows of the killing chute. Wait, wrong story! I was trying to see if you were awake! I asked for support. I asked through being vulnerable and honest and a good thing happened because they said "Yes." I always worried somebody else would take credit for my creative savvy but this too is just a limiting belief from my childhood. To take these examples one step further, they can translate into peace and joy. If we follow who we really are, surpass what we thought was not available and accept that if we ask in steps, we can achieve almost anything. The real benefit is when we pass this last step and relax in place of trying, we really hit gold. For me when I travel, I am certain to meet nearly everybody within my radius without even trying. I've gone to events where small groups convene in between speakers where I act as the waiting room "emcee" and get each person to share their connection to life and they don't even know it but everybody feels a little better. For I am a connector and if I place myself where I am to be and I release judgment, I am golden. Give yourself the gift of gold. Let somebody sit at your extra space at your table, stand up for the person who needs the seat on the bus. It is not your kind action but your open heart that will bring awe into your life. I know you're dying for more but that is what next week is for people! Enjoy your heart and life until them.

Energy Update Stand your ground

Upcoming Events- Vision Board Workshop $10 *This Weekend! Sign up today! Saturday January 11th 9:30-12:30pm Come create a focused or transformational vision board! Supplies provided, enjoy some snacks and a little guidance to create your vision for the coming year. Whether it be in relationships, career, health or the creative forces within you who are ready to escape......let it roar in this visual format. A great event for a group of friends, family members or come solo! Please RSVP via email to let me know you're coming. Afternoon Psychic Salon Saturday January 11th 1:30-5pm Up to 5 people can join in for a group reading, each may ask 3 questions. This lovely event will be held in St Paul at my studio space in Lowertown. Come ready for some fun and enlightenment. $50 per person. SALON FULL Engaging Intuition Workshop $75 Saturday Feb 22nd 9-2:30pm For those of you tapping into your psychic ability or its tapping into you and you have no clue what to do with it, this workshop is for you! Learn to turn on and off your ability to read energy. Learn what to trust and what to let go. We'll do a short guided "journey" (similar to a meditation), make a mandala to practice reading with another participant and do some practice readings with each other, time permitting. (This will be with the use of tools). A one hour follow up reading about two weeks after this event is recommended for the purpose of asking questions and to verify information or get a handle on why you are seeing certain things when you read. Email me to sign up- intuitivepathfinder@gmail.com *New* Conversations and Readings $5 Saturday February 22nd 4-7pm This is an opportunity for you to practice reading for others in an open, experimental, non-judgmental environment! Come sit and converse with others about psychic experiences or concerns about bridging the human experience with this spiritual life. Or come read with one another or in a small group-you choose! I'll be there to answer questions and support you. Please RSVP to me if you're planning on making it. I need a minimum of 8 people signed up to host this event. This week the topic is standing your ground. This has all to do with self love. Over the holidays my inner world was rocked. Issues with family I'd internally addressed since 2005 were absolved. I could live freely being the puzzle piece which had always come from a different box. My power is now known in this arena. I can love freely, even to the disgust of my husband and awe of my sister who sees our family exactly the same way. They wonder how and why I'd even strive to love these two people. I can. The real power in it is I know who I can and cannot be for them and with them. My position is to hold love for them while following my boundaries so I am able to maintain a consistent stream of love for these two people. I’ve let go of those who have hurt me the most and now can love them. Honestly, I think they were a blocking mechanism to visiting the real core issue. Self love and self reliance. My acupuncturist just told me last week I need to practice this stance of stomping my foot on the ground in an outward motion. What is he asking me to do? Hold my space, affirm my confidence, hold my power among intensity. What came next was a visit to a doctor who shamed, belittled and barns-waggled me. I went back the next day and took my power back. An eagle in a tight circle over head on my way to the original appointment let me know power was on the table. When you, yourself encounter this type of information, work with it, trust its there for you or you wouldn't have seen it at all. I also recognize in this I wanted support from people who couldn't give it. I now know I need to find a broader resource to meet my needs and where I can in time be fully self reliant. I need to change patterns in a large way to restore my health and bring the fun and play I so very much need into my life. In already making some of these changes, the Universe brought more very unexpected support. I am headed in the right direction because life is supposed to be effortless like this. Where do you need to stand your ground? Are you doing things for yourself or for others? Where can you explore self love? I encourage you to trust you and make some small changes in your favor. Watch because the outcome will be divine!